Aug 20, 2025 Healing the Lonely

“As a kid, I used to feel lonely a lot, I didn’t feel like I could directly talk to people in my church about my emotional situation or problems because I thought that they were just going to judge me or even scold me?” explained Nymdulam. 

“Why do we do that?” she continued. “Why do we judge? When we as Christians know who the ultimate judge is?” 

Out of a prayer of loneliness, God gave her what she describes as her future.  

At QHM, we believe in partnership. Partnership with God, yes—but also with our international partners. They’re the ones living in the communities we serve. They know the people. They understand the challenges. And they’re deeply invested in lasting change. 

Partners like Nymdulam. 

As a stay-at-home mom, Nymdulam often felt isolated. She saw firsthand how loneliness—regardless of gender—could spiral into alcoholism or, at times, much worse. 

Years ago, her brother experienced a deep personal loss. Consumed by grief and feeling completely alone, he took his own life. 

“At that time, I was living alone and had stopped going to church,” Nymdulam recalled. “I was depressed. It felt like Satan was tormenting me. I was terrified of the dark but couldn’t sleep. It got to the point where I needed a beer each night just to feel brave enough to face the darkness.” 

Healing didn’t come quickly, but it came. Slowly, she returned to church and began rebuilding her life and her community. 

Knowing what it was like to be in that dark place, Nymdulam began inviting others into her home—people who, like her, were lonely and struggling. They’d talk, share stories, and try to connect—but something still felt missing. 

“I kept praying, ‘God, I want to serve You. Show me how,’” she said. “I prayed that over and over, but I didn’t hear anything.” 

Until one day, a gospel worker approached her. They had one open spot on their team and asked if she wanted to join. 

Nymdulam hesitated. “I thought, ‘How can I do this? I don’t know the Bible like a pastor. I can’t teach like that.’” 

But God answers our prayers perfectly—in His time and His way. 

In one invitation, He answered two prayers: her desire to serve Him and her longing to no longer feel alone. Through her role as a gospel worker, Nymdulam is now creating spaces where others who feel forgotten or judged can encounter love—and Jesus. 

“I didn’t know where to begin, so I just started reading the Bible from the beginning,” she said. “I prayed, ‘God, please fill me with Your Holy Spirit. Help me reach people who feel alone and think alcohol is their only escape.’” 

She added, “People are so quick to judge or assume the worst. But I don’t want to do that. I just want to listen—to really listen—and show them that with Jesus, they never have to feel alone again. That’s the space I’m trying to create: a space without judgment, filled with love. A space that looks like Christ.” 

Because of her obedience and vulnerability, she is now offering others what she once longed for herself: connection, compassion, and the hope of Christ. 

At QHM, this is why we do what we do. We believe that when people like Nymdulam are empowered, entire communities are transformed—not through judgment, but through presence, prayer, and partnership. 

Because no one should ever feel alone in the body of Christ.